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    We Broke Up: The Beginning Stages

    It’s Day One. The last conversation is over. Either one of you hung the phone up on the other, stormed away enraged, or mutually agreed that you two were no longer the perfect fit. Whatever the case may be, you and your former partner have broken up. Whether you knew the end was near or were completely blindsided (e.g. you found out he was cheating), you are officially not a “we” anymore. The realization that your future is completely altered due to the fact that he will not be in it can be a hard pill to swallow. Here is some foresight as to what to expect during the beginning…

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    Why Am I Single?!

    “Why are you single?” I am plagued with this question more often than I would truly like to admit. It is most often followed by a frown or proposal to be “hooked up” with someone the person may know. At 27-years-old, I somewhat understand why people think this is an okay question to ask someone. I mean, my mom was married in her earlier 20s and had her last child (yours truly) by 27. I typically respond to the question with an “I just haven’t found the one yet” and change the subject. However, I truly wanted to explore why I am single! So I came up with a list…

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    Properly Mourning the Loss of a Relationship

    They are gone. The one person you thought you would spend your entire life with is gone. Either they were bad for you or you both were just bad for each other, but the end is here. You are now left with pieces of shattered memories and one day hoping that the pain will subside. I have mourned the loss of a relationship or two and I understand that it is difficult to believe that one day you will awaken, and the pain won’t hurt as much. Here are some of my tips regarding mourning the loss of a relationship that I truly feel may aid you through this difficult…

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    Finding Ways to Conquer Feeling Alone

    As I began to write this blog post, I stumbled on the title. My first thought was “Conquer Being Single.” I did not like how the title appeared to reflect that being single was such a negative thing that it needed to be conquered. My second thought was, “Conquer Being Alone.” Now, that would suggest that I or the reader was alone and did not have anyone. Which brought me to the title above, “Conquer Feeling Alone.” Now I am the first to admit that I downplay my feelings. If someone hurts my feelings, I will claim that I am fine and that they did not really hurt them. I…

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    10 Tips for Self-Care!

    Working in the mental health field, I find myself explaining to my clients about the benefits of taking care of themselves quite often. However, I fall short at times to actually take my own advice. As I continue to grow older, I noticed that my body is not as easily “refreshed” as it used to be when I was in college. Now I have to intentionally practice self-care in order to properly function. Here are my top ten self-care tips! Mental Health Days I believe everyone should take a mental health day aka miss a day from work, school, etc. Most of us usually only miss work if we end…

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    Are Men the New Women: Hypermasculinity in 2018? (An Opinion Piece)

    Women have been fighting for their right to destroy gender roles placed on them for many years. The transition from “homemaker” to CEO has been a difficult pill for our society to swallow. However, have we ever considered the plight of men (especially black men) in overcoming gender roles placed on them? Hypermasculinity of men is no more important than the issue of gender roles/expectations on women. As defined by Merriam-Webster, hypermasculinity is considered “extremely or excessively masculine.” Hypermasculinity in 2018 could be noted as men’s inability to be vulnerable, show emotions/feelings, or even cry. Men are judged by their strength and any emotion that is associated with women (nurturing,…

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    7 Things I’ve Learned in My 20s!

    Does anyone ever tell you how hard your 20s actually are? Like seriously?! All I have ever heard was “blah, blah, blah…Your 20s are the best time of your life…blah, blah, blah…I wish I could be 20 again.” (insert irritated face). So, I fully understand the youth aspect of why older adults say that, but most of these adults had children early and had to grow up fast (at least the ones I know). Most of my friends and I experience so much anxiety about living our purpose and finding careers that we love versus tolerate that our 20s appear so difficult and often times draining. However, I am not…